We are women

WE NEED TO HUMBLE OURSELVES AND CEASE EFFORTS TO PROMOTE OURSELVES AND OUR OPINION. WE NEED TO KNOW THAT WE ARE GREATLY BLESSED, HIGHLY FAVORED AND DEEPLY LOVED. SO, WE DO NOT NEED TO DEPEND ON OR DEFEND OUR SELF WORTH. WE NEED TO PUT OTHERS FIRST. OPEN OUR HEARTS AND MINDS TO OPPORTUNITIES TO SHARE THE LOVE of God that has been (not going to be already done) poured into us. WE CAN STILL STAND OUT IN A CROWD AND OBTAIN GRACE AND FAVOR WITH GOD AND MAN.

 WE STILL NEED HELP TO PRACTISE THINGS THAT ARE HONORABLE, PURE, LOVELY, COMMENDABLE.  WE ARE NOT CAPABLE OF DOING ANYTHING ON OUR OWN AND NEVER WILL. AS SOON AS WE BEGIN TO LIVE IN A WAY WHERE WE ARE NO LONGER DEPENDANT ON GOD TO DO EVERYTHING FOR US, WE ARE FORGETTING OUR FIRST LOVE AND PROCLAIMING WHAT CHRIST DID FOR US WAS NOT ENOUGH.

AS MARRIED WOMAN OR EVEN SINGLE WOMEN THINKING OF MARRIAGE, WE NEED TO KNOW WHAT HUMILITY MEANS
1 HUMILITY DOES NOT MEAN WEAKNESS BUT IT MEANS ACCEPTING THE TRUTH THAT WE ARE NOT ALWAYS RIGHT AND OTHERS HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER. INSTEAD OF GETTING INTO A FIGHT OR WITHDRAW. YOU SHOW STRENGTH BY SETTING ASIDE YOUE EGO AND RESPOND THOUGHTFULLY AND KINDLY. WE NEED TO HAVE CONVERSATIONS WITH THE PERSON WE ARE UPSET WITH. GOD’S WORD SAYS
Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,”

IT WILL NOT BE EASY TO SAY I LOVE YOU WHEN YOU HAVE HATE AND ANGER IN YOUR HEART. FIND A SOLUTION OR AN AGREEMENT. LET GO OF THOUGHTS YOU NEED TO IMPRESS YOUR SPOUSE/PARTNER BY APPEARING PERFECT. BE WILLING TO LEARN FROM OTHERS, ADMIT WHEN YOU ARE WRONG AND SEEK FORGIVENESS

2. HUMILITY IS DEALING WITH ISSUES WITHOUT PRIDE. MAKING SPACE FOR THE OTHER PERSON TO EXPRESS HIMSELF BY LISTENING THOUGHTFULLY. BE CURIOUS NOT CRITICAL WHEN OPINIONS DIFFER. ASK WHY? RELATIONSHIP THRIVE WHEN WE STAY FOCUSED AND ACCEPT DIFFERENCES. AVOID BEING DEFENSIVE, AGGRESSIVE AND/ OR DOMINEERING.

3. HUMILITY HELPS YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR PARTNER AND CREATE A HEALTHY, BALANCED RELATIONSHIP; A BALANCE OF GIVING AND TAKING. HAVE GRATITUDE FOR EACH MOMENT YOU ARE GIVEN IN LIFE. SHOW APPRECIATION OFTEN AND SMILE

 WE CAN RESPOND IN PRIDE OR HUMILITY. PROUD PEOPLE ARE DEFENSIVE, ANGRY, BLAME SHIFTING AND FOCUSED ON SELF.
HUMBLE PEOPLE ARE BROKEN OVER THEIR SIN, MORE CONCERNED WITH HONORING GOD THAN ARGUING ABOUT WHAT THEY DESERVE. THEY DEPEND ON GOD’S MERCY AND WISDOM. PRACTISE SELFLESS LOVE
LUKE 14:11” For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

ADMIT OUR BROKENESS AND THAT ONLY GOD CAN HEAL, FOR ALL HAVE SINNED AND FALL SHORT OF THE GLORY OF GOD

CAN WE SAY WE LOVE GOD AND WE WILL DO WHATEVER IT TAKES BECAUSE WE LOVE GOD? WE MAY THINK WE ARE FIGHTING AGAINST OUR SPOUSE/ FAMILY MEMBERS BUT ITS ULTIMATELY GOD WE ARE OPPOSING AND INVITING HIS OPPOSITION IN RETURN.

DO WE WANT TO EXPERIENCE GOD’S GRACE OR HIS OPPOSITION?

IS IT MORE IMPORTANT FOR US TO BE RIGHT OR DO WHAT’S RIGHT?
IS ANYONE FACING MARRIAGE TROUBLE?

THINK ABOUT THIS:
1. WHAT DOES MY HUSBAND NEED IN A WIFE?
WE THINK MORE OF WHAT WE NEED IN A HUSBAND AND HOW OUR SPOUSE HAVE FALLEN SHORT OF OUR EXPECTATION

Ephesians 5^{: 22} Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. ²⁴ Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.